Have you ever found yourself reacting in the moment?
Me too! It's an organic intuitive human response we all recognise, a personal response.,
I am sitting at my small portable desk, half in and half out of the garden. Red geraniums growing before my eyes, tiny tomatoes blush and ripen in the occasional sunshine and the soft hiss of the breeze winds through the branches of the acer tree at the bottom of the garden. Next door's cat popped by for treats, hissed at me for no reason and left. Her tiny paws soundless on the patio as she retreats to the pond to catch an unwitting pond skater. I stretch into a lazy day feeling and I begin to wonder about that hiss for no reason. I didn't take it personally, I laughed because Belle the cat hisses all the time.
It did get me thinking.
What happens when we do take something personally - a bee just landed on my lobelia, MY lobelia, how dare it collect pollen - it's MY pollen.
Does that sound as ridiculous to you as it does to me? Try this example . . .
Imagine you are minding your own business and you decide to take a walk through the park, you are so engrossed in listening to a podcast you trip over a dog lead and the owner's response is
" Watch where in the h*** you are going! You lousy son of a ****."
And the dog walkers are shaking their heads and walking away (thank goodness) and telling other dog walkers how stupid that person with the ear buds is. The one over there in the red jacket on the ground. You pick yourself up and head back home, the promise of a woodland walk has ebbed away. You play the scene over and over. You are angry not stupid, how dare they ruin your day.
Did they ruin your day?
How about last week's episodes, how did they go down?
The boss who clips your wings, the lover who does not return your call, the child whose laundry is in a muddy mess all over their room, the friend who does not call you or visit even when someone close to you dies.
Nobody cares. Its always me who is told off by the boss, I am always the first to call anyone, the first to make excuses for the other person who does not visit, I resent them though.
Is this you occasionally? Having a bad day, a bad week, a bad life?
Taking things to heart, taking them personally?
Are you taking things to heart?
What is happening in your life at this moment?
Heart based language - what does this mean? I believe it has a heads or tails meaning. Heads we take it personally, tails we see it impersonally - unconditional and lovingly as the observer.
It being the relationship, circumstance or scenario we find ourselves in at work, in your family relationships, or with someone very close to you.
Or maybe its a Tuesday self pity day! A leave me alone day, can't you see how ill I am - and I can prove it too! Or can't you see how busy I am? How tired? How sad? How alone?
We contain ourselves. Squeeze into our own self made conditional thinking
We make so may assumptions, we are taught them, we are bound by their rules. The boss dictates, the friend disowns, the lover leaves, life is hard. When you feel this you are at a crossroads of awareness. How is that working out for you? It didn't work for me and I began to sense it.
You see, our growing awareness is caused when we begin to see through the conditional choices we make and we begin to question life, from a different choice.
How, why, who?
To see things differently we become the observer and do not dive into the resistance, the fight.
How to shift perceptions from personal to the impersonal
Love is our true nature it's expansive and unconditional - this is you! You can choose this because YOU ARE this.
All things arise in our awareness like a carousel of choices, going around and around, sometimes loving, sometimes scary or hurtful. And we jump on and off the carousel choosing to respond to those experiences and live through them or to be the observer.
Choosing is truly the key to learning how to let go of stress, worry, challenges; we can be the observer and be more aware of circumstances as just life's experiences arising within us in the moment. Passing through flowing by instead of sticking around to long.
Becoming the witness or observer of our life is spacious and opportune, unlimited. It has a free and easy feel of NO THING.
Choice, we get to choose everything that arises in our life, make those choices matter unconditionally for you.
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Love Anni x
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